Jihad Me at Hello
I'm a man in my mid-30s, and I'm dating a woman I really love. We match each other on so many levels, and I thought we had a really great thing. But recently, she seems to want more than I can give. Specifically, she’s prodding me to say “I love you” repeatedly throughout the day, and she blows up at me for not doing it enough. Though I do love her, the required affirmations feel hollow. But I am trying. Yesterday she called, and I told her, “I’ve been thinking about you all day.” She got super-angry and said, “Then you should have called to tell me that!” WTH?! Where's the line between being present for people and being phony just to quell their unfounded insecurities?
Understandably, if your relationship is patterned on a movie, you’d like it to be Love Actually, not Judgment at Nuremberg.